The Survivor versus Victim Challenge
1. Play one empowering song a day. A song that usually reminds me of how I survived is “Thrash Unreal” by Against! Me or So What! By Pink. I don’t really remember any other songs but if you know any that make you feel powerful or the possibility to do anything send me a song in my ask box!
2. Learn through Self-Defense/Karate/Ju Jistu* that your body is a weapon, not an orphus for penetration or a place of self-harm. Once I come to terms that they essentially only hurt my body, not my soul, I will be able to come to terms that they did not damage “me”. When you realize that you have physical strength over an attacker you are able to understand that you now possess strength and can easily overcome flashbacks and fears. This is the most important step as you understand the full potential of your body and you now have knowledge of your full potential also.
3. Try And Eat healthy foods. Treat your body like a sanctuary. When you gain self-respect for what you do to your body, you will not let anyone tamper with your body since you have worked so hard treat it right.
4. Write impossible goals down everyday. What’s the point of living if you don’t want to do something fantastic? This will help me realize that I am not an artifact, but a new found existence. This will help spark my imagination and will to live.
5. Start being assertive with your surroundings. Start walking with perfect posture and under no circumstance slouch or look disorientated in public. Once you change your stature you will gain confidence.
6. Do homework every day with complete concentration. If you don’t do your homework, feelings of inadequacy and insecurity take place. Once you put forth 100% into your work, you will essentially feel better about yourself.
7. Create something every day. Whether this involves finger painting (Which is a tactic used for people with Bullimia/Anorexia as you learn to break away from perfection and just paint), writing short poems, painting, sketching, making dinner, writing a letter to a friend, making music. This will boost self-esteem and help realize that one has the power to create instead of realizing that they were a creation.
8. Wear your favorite clothes more often. This will make you feel like you have the ultimate choice for your happiness and how you feel about yourself. Although it may seem rather shallow, whenever I wear my favorite clothes on a bad day I feel a little bit better about my overall appearance.
9. Go on a walk, experience nature. Getting away from the complications of modern day life, and the anxiety from school and inner anguish and escaping to nature will automatically calm you down. This has helped me before as you appreciate physical feelings versus mental/emotional. You learn to become one with your surroundings versus keeping everything that’s surrounding you inside.
10. Instead of unhealthy habits when anxious or upset, drink water. Drinking eight glasses of water is an already necessity for health. Considering that the most liquids anyone drinks is Soda society has engaged in unhealthy behaviors. The number one weight loss rule is to start drinking water, this helps filter toxins from food and you gain more energy. When I first started drinking 8 glasses a day for two months, I lost 12 pounds. I am already extremely small as I weigh 103 right now, but drinking water-even if you are thin you still have toxins and it is extremely important that we stay hydrated no matter our appearance. Drinking water is the smart thing to do, and it will make you feel proud when you first begin this healthy choice at a restaurant or at home.
I wrote this because I really need to start changing for the better. I really recommended this to anyone who wants to better their self-esteem, and I am really going to strive to do this every day. The self-defense part doesn’t have to be daily, but stretching and exercising can really help you realize your physical potential. If anyone wants to do this with me, I would love and support you all the way :)
(Source: trial-child)
