An important part of consent: BODY LANGUAGE
Here’s an example situation:
You are engaging in some feisty consensual fun with your partner. And then you’re preparing for sex; legs are being spread, whatever.
And your partner says, “What are you doing?” That right there, my friend, is a good sign he/she has ceased to be comfortable with what’s happening.
You say, “Let’s have sex.” And he/she could say no, not right now, anything else that is not consent. You, like an informed person, stop immediately.
But you’re horny, and he/she is so gorgeous, and you just want to have that closeness, so you try again a little bit later.
Again, your partner says, “What are you doing?”
“Let’s have sex,” you say.
Your partner is silent for a while, then says, “..okay, I guess.” (Those words are another good sign that while this person is technically consenting, he/she DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX.)
Because you now have verbal consent, you start to get it on. Except your partner’s all tense and you keep having to say, “Relax.. relax.. it’ll be okay.. just relax..”STOP IMMEDIATELY. Even though you have obtained verbal consent, your partner is NOT COMFORTABLE. With 100% consensual sex, everyone involved should be completely comfortable and relaxed.
